Andy Oliver has tried to define Community.
He fails utterly. The answer is in the thing I assume everyone’s mothers used to tell them repeatedly [or was it only mine??]
* Community is treating others as you’d expect to be treated.
I believe this. It sometimes surprises me when I talk to an online friend of the last few years and discover something about them I didn’t know due to my habit of assuming the people I talk to are the same as I, but it is the heart to how to be a good member of a community.
I wish the Andys, Jasons, Nicolas and others of this world could see this. Andy seems to think that Community is some kind of peace-agreement between enemies. He thinks that Community selects you, which is utterly wrong. Community accepts you, but you have to seek it first. Community never sucks an individual into it without that individual being prepared to make the first steps.
It’s taken a while, but I now understand what the httpd and other ASF people find so horrifying about Jakarta. It is not a community, it is a bazaar with traders hawking their wares in competition and spitting in each others faces.
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In the past Andy has stated excuses for why he is such an antagonising sod online. He claims that ‘irl’ [in real] people who meet him do not think he is, and it’s only online that he comes accross that way. He’s wrong. As an individual Andy is a fine character, and someone I enjoy talking with via email. The problem is that as a community member Andy doesn’t get it. I suspect the same would happen to any ‘irl’ communities he is a member of.
He is not alone. I suspect many other members of Jakarta fit the same description. Good individuals, useless community members. I’m even being turned that way, 20 months and the useless and vociferous community members are frustrating me enough to openly insult people.
But that’s the Jakarta-Way.